As most of you know, or those that know me personally, I am a Civil Celebrant. Now most people think they know what that means and others, have no idea at all! So I am going to explain why people use people like me……over and above because they like me!
The trend of using celebrants is growing. Sadly, some of this may be because of people turning away from the church but for some, it is just because they want to have more choice in what is a very important day in our lives. Whether it is a celebration of a wedding, a renewal of vows, a naming ceremony or a funeral, that ceremony should be what you want, not what ‘the establishment’ wants you to have.
For a wedding, wouldn’t it be nice to have all the words spoken through your ceremony specific to you, not the standard 10 minutes that you hear at every wedding? A renewal of vows, wouldn’t you like to know what the couples journey has been to that point, to share in their joys and challenges, not just hear them repeat vows that again, you have heard time in memorial? A naming ceremony, wouldn’t you like to hear how the parents got to the point of bringing that child into the world and how it changed them as people?
Funerals, people don’t realise that they have so much more choice over these very emotional days over and above what a funeral director tells you. Things are changing, we have more choices but we don’t always get told. That is nothing against FDs, it is just they still work and think in a more traditional way but there is so much more can be done to celebrate the life of someone lost to the world. Again traditionally, the clergy have a set way of working and rarely spend any time with the family of the deceased so read a pre- prepared script.
For any of my ceremonies, I visit the family as many times as is needed although its normally an initial 90 minutes and with the aid of modern technology, following communication by emails. Nothing, not a single word is spoken at the funeral without the full agreement of everyone involved in the arrangements. I listen, I get to understand who the deceased person was as a person themselves but also how they affected others through their journey in this life.
I could write for every but I hope this gives you an idea of what a Celebrant really does!
If you have any questions, just give me a call on 07788791677 and I would be happy to help.